Orgasms seem to be elusive for some and easy as 123 for others.  For the lucky of us who can orgasm just but thinking about it, congratulations.  For those who may never have had that Big O, do not give up.

Some people say orgasms are all mental.  I have to agree in most cases.  Relaxing is the first step.  Relaxation comes with confidence.  Confidence just comes with an attitude of just have fun.  If you are not having fun, ask yourself if you are with the right person.

Okay so let's assume you are  Mr. Right.  Or maybe you are just trying to please her.  Let's get to the mechanics of it.  There are plenty of techniques some of which should just come naturally (no pun intended).  The book below may be helpful if you need some ideas.

For you men whose women friends have never or rarely enjoy the thrill of the big O, here is a straight forward book that just may help you help her.  Five Minutes to Orgasm Every Time You Make Love: Female Orgasm Made Simple  .  It provides simple steps to help her have an orgasm. 

If you want to have some extra fun while alone or with your partner, we highly recommend the toys.  If you do not have toys in your arsenal, then you may be missing out on some memorable orgasms.  Here are a couple we highly recommend:

Doc Johnson i-Vibe Rabbit Vibrator, Strawberry (the color does not matter)

Hand Held Personal Massager - Hitachi Magic Wand Vibrating Massager by Vibratex Deluxe Package  (You have to get the attachments!!)

And if you want to give ideas to your woman, then this book may be just the book for you.  How to Be a Great Lover: Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques that Will Blow her Mind

Our advice.  Keep an open mind.